As its drawing closer to my parents 40yr wedding anniversary and my Moms ^0th Birthday, todays post is going to explain a bit more about myself and my family, and my decision to have a baby at a young age.
My parents are both older than the 'norm' and when my Mom had me she was 39, back in 1990 this was extreamly frowned upon and she tells me she was treated like a old lady, nower days women go onto having babys well after 39 and its not seen as a problem.
I have a older sister who is 18yrs older than me and she was pregnant at the same time as my Mom with my neice who is 3months younger than me, my brother is 14yr older than me. They both have there own families and children. Me and my partner live at home with my parents and Harry, and I love it.
Growing up with older parents, has not had many draw backs, proberly the most annoying is the whole 'is that your nan/grandad' in primary school when they picked me up but I've never missed out on anything, if anything, I've gained, there's not many kids that new all the words to patsy cline and daniel o donnel songs at the age of 7, and who had a talking enclocopidea of knowledge about history and any other subject you wish to ask my Dad. But the reason and the sadest downfall to having older parents is, I have never had a Grandad as sadly they past away before I was born and my Nans died when I was around 5 so I feel I've missed out on the having a Nan and Grandad thing, i would hear the kids at school saying 'Im sleeping at my Nans house tonight' and i would feel ever so jelous, as ive got older i just wish they were here to see me now so this is why I decided to have Harry at a young age, I wanted my Mom and Dad to enjoy my child growing up without being too old to realise it, and I never wanted Harry to feel how i feel with no Grandparents. As morbid as it sounds, I'm aware I won't get as much time with my parents as I would like, I am extremely close to my Mom and Dad and couldn't live without them, this is part of the reason I still live at home with them, I just want to take and cherish every second with them and want them to enjoy every second of there only Grandson (they have 3 grandaughters from my sister and 2 from my brother) I'm so lucky to have a partner that understands how I feel about wanting to be with my parents and live with them for as long as possible. Im not saying i want to stay here forever, as Harry gets older, he will be wanting his own space no doubt, and so will me and Gareth but for now home is where my parents are. My Parents have a caravan that they regularly go to so we do get the house to our selves sometimes, and its nice, i think we have got the balance right. My partners parents are polar opposite, they had him very young moved to there own flat, got married and then divorced when he was little, but he understands where I am coming from with my feelings.
I come under some micky taking from my sister who has in the past told me I have been 'born middle aged' as I'm not the typical 21yr old, I'd much rather sit in with my Mom watching Corrie having a giggle than off out drinking and clubbing the night away.
When I was pregnant I was 19
and to be honest was treated a bit like a scum bag who had got pregnant
young, I was placed under special attention by the 'underage pregnancy'
midwife, she visited my house and was shocked to find I had been
referred, after asking my education and partner status, and being taken a back to find I had 11 GCSES and a NVQ level 2 in beauty therapy,
had been with my partner for 6yrs, we were STILL together and he was in a
full time job. I was swiftly removed from the underage list and was
told in her words 'I had more common sense than most older moms to be'
but even now I still get looks when I'm out with Harry because I still
look so young but I will stand by my choice to have him so young and I
think it was the best decision I've ever made for me my partner and
Harry.I want to thank my parents for giving me the best childhood and upbringing ever, and if I can be as half as good with Harry then I'll be chuffed.
Pictures above are of my crazy Dad dressed as elvis and my Mom with her 2 oldest Grandaughters Christmas 2011.
I like to think i keep them young as my Moms 60 this year and my Dad 69
How old was you when you had your baby/babies? Are you a child of a older parent?
Thanks for reading
Love lucy x
Hey Lucy, I know this is an old post, but what a great post! Your parents sound lovely :)
ReplyDeleteMy parents had me (1st child) very young and they had an awful relationship, my Dad is basically a blankety blank, but my Mum raised me great- I've always been told i'm wise beyond my years and yes, I know the lyrics to a lot of Patsy Cline songs :p I've been judged as a young Mum since I first started showing, I was put on the underage section at the maternity hospital too which really pissed me off, the other girls i'd seen in the waiting room were like 14, 15, I think out of about 20 only one had her partner with her, who was an immature little brat with his hand down his tracksuit pants on his phone, arguing with her as she told him to get off the phone. I am nothing like these stereotypes, I'm educated with a good, mature, responsible head on my shoulders and I can take pride knowing I take damn good care of my baby and so does my partner, he is a brilliant Dad, he suffers from Aspergers Syndrome yet does everything he can for us! I hate being painted with this stereotypical scrounging teenage mum brush! xxx
thank you! my mom and dad are more than i could ever want, even if i do say so myself lol x yay, pasty cline! x i hated being treated as a teen mum, and another statistic and drain on the country :( Jared has amazing parents in you two, you can see from your posts and pics how happy and loved he is, those sterotypes are just so wrong, its just a shame we all get painted with the same brush like you say :( x
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